is there even such a thing? harmless... many would say yes...and also no.... to me.... it's hard to draw the line.... do i flirt? yes.... is it harmless? sometimes it is... sometimes it's not...for me... the heat can be turned up.... and sometimes before i or the other party know it, we are cooked.... because flirting is like playing with fire.... when small...it looks harmless enough, flickering...just a lil' excitement, it won't hurt would it...anyway such a small lil' fire... wat harm can we get ourselves into? so we play.... it's like a tennis game... i hit one into your court... you hit one back... both parties or at least 1 party knowing...whether win or lose, i've got nothing to lose...just enjoy the game..then if i win...it's good...if i lose, it's for fun anyway... so is the way of the world today...
as for me... i shall have no pretentions of being totally pure at heart and mind.... it's like a strategy game...some play with greater skill at bigger stakes....some play small...and less daring to take risks...for fear of losing their hearts....i won't particularly treat it as a game... it is not one i would play lightly.... because i play big....i play to win... and i dun play with amateurs.... and in my naive-ity....i once thought it was harmless.... did it prove to be? no.... did i lose big? yes, i lost.... did the other parties lose too? yes... there was no winners... we all lost... something we thought was totally in our control went haywired.... i've lost.... my heart.... my frens (thank God He fixed that).... my sanity.... where is my rationality? when it comes to flirting, sometimes there is no rational bout the whole situation.... 2 players...sometimes even more, setting out to catch one another.... hoping to net one another.... what it is that catches the eye? is it physical chemistry? yes....i would think so... God made us men n women.... we attract one another... maybe it's hormonal.... still, this chemistry drove the human race for thousands of years.... and still is strong today.... altho guys do no longer behave like cavemen...many still have cavemen instincts.... even in the animal kingdom, males fight for their mates.... the winner takes all.... however, humans we r not guided just by our basic instincts.... we have something special..... a soul.... a spirit.... a mind.... a heart.... we are of God....our Creator.... did He make physical attraction? yes....it would be pretty sad if adam and eve didn't like one another.... we wouldn't be here today would we? if they weren't in any way attract to one another.... if men were not drawn by "something" to women.... n likewise... wouldn't it be devastating? to me, Yes, very....the guys in my life, they are God's miracles... thank God, think life would be so boring without them... and not to say the estrogen levels are killing me sometimes....women, can't live with them can't live without them.... and men too....well, life would be pretty miserable without guys... i must say... they r the best punching bags, listening ears, shoulders to cry on.... and hugging bags too... not to say they have bucket loads of patience, and can tolerate so much crap from me....
sorta strayed off topic... so regardless of everything....is it right to flirt? izit ever harmless? i can't answer this question... am on the journey to discover more about myself.... guys.... my future spouse.... God....would God agree or disagree? i can't answer too... it's not for me to assume God...
i'm not condemning those who flirt...that would be hypocritical...i do it too... and i'm not saying it's right or wrong... jus dun overdo it... my point of view.... dun play too BIG....u will end up losing all.... and getting hurt or others hurt.... make sure both parties know the rules... it's not fair to play a biased game.... and make sure both are willing playas... do not set out to trap others or to screw up their lives....jus because some are blur or unassuming....
i flirt for fun.... i flirt for entertainment... i m repenting from flirting... yet i find myself suddenly drawn to it...especially when the guys who are flirting are very cute....blur....good musicians and accomodating..... they are my type.... and yes, because i'm afraid to be serious, i am afraid of being hurt...after everything.... i do not want my heart to be broken again....yet, do not judge me... i play by the rules...i dun know how to explain... i flirt with no one who do not want to flirt back... n i no when to stop....i dunno if flirting with a conscience is possible... i do it.... keeping in mind...these are people i love and God loves them too.... and so far all my guy frens whom have flirted with me.... we r still frens...very good frens.... we no where we stand....sometimes i won't even call it flirting...to me, it's more than that...i do actually love them....sincerely....and they know it.... and the way i put it... we are building strong bridges.... and we are not shy in expressing our care and love to one another....
i wonder what would my future hubbie think? maybe he'll be one of my flirting partners... i don't know.... judge not and you will not be judged....i try not to.... judge those who flirt shamelessly....without a conscience, those who flirt even though they are attached....
i am as much a sinner as anyone.... and flirting..... what's its definition anyway? i jus talk...no batting eye lashes.... no excessive touching.... i jus talk..... so.... is it any worse or better than the next flirt?
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